Wednesday, June 15, 2011

Has your bubble burst yet?

In certain situations of life, we all tend to create bubbles around ourselves.. bubbles that are an attempt of insulation from the reality. This bubble is very cozy, comfortable, soothing and peaceful. But the problem is every such bubble breaks some day and when it does, all you can count is how much time were you lost from reality... how much have you deviated from your path to liberation and how hard you need to work to get back on the track ?

There are different types of bubbles: the let-me-party bubble, the friends-are-life bubble, the workaholic's bubble, the f***-the-world bubble and the philosopher's bubble.

1) The let-me-party bubble - this is the most common and probably the most destructive of them all. In your 20s, you find this all around you. The people in this bubble are often seen partying, drinking, clubbing, smoking, etc. Now you would say whats wrong with this.. well a peculiar quality is that a person in the let-me-party bubble will be seen in every party of the town. For them the time, the day, the company and the occasion do not matter. All they want to do is get drunk and dance to the loud music.. probably to shut the voice of reality.. sigh !! A person in this bubble should be lucky to come out without health and psychological issues.

2) The f***-the-world bubble - this is arguably the second most common bubble and it pretty much goes hand-in-hand with the first one. If you have seen someone swearing at the world for every wrong thing happening in their lives, you have seen type 2 (and I am sure everyone has). There's a simple concept of spirituality that these guys must learn - the sooner you come to peace with the reality, the faster you'll learn to live and love the world you were placed in.

3) The workaholic's bubble- this is another quite common bubble. You see workaholics all around you. Not every workaholic is workaholic from birth... they become so if they feel that there's nothing else in the world that's more important than work. These guys often loose on valuable time in life, get health issues and become socially inept.

4) The friends-are-life bubble - I know I am going to be criticized a lot for saying that friends-are-life is a bubble and it will burst, but in my opinion and experience it is a fact !! If you are too dependent on your friends to live your life, you are a potential resident of this bubble. Friends come and go - some leave a deep influence, some are fondly remembered and some leave back a scar. What one needs to remember is there is a life beyond friends !!

5) The philosopher's bubble - When need comes, some people choose a more "intellectual" way to run from reality. They create their own ideology. This does not hold the risk of bubble formation if the ideologies have been tried and tested by many people caught in similar situation. This bubble is also shortest, if the person has broader outlook towards life and accepts different perspectives openly.

Everyone goes through the bubble phase/s and anyone who says they have not is either lying or has not had the bubble burst yet !! Once out of the bubble, the life should be/ would be a balance of parties, friends, work, philosophy and more compassionate outlook towards the world.

When I told about my bubble to a dear friend he said, 'but aren't you supposed to be super matured by 20s to fall into any bubble?' Well I feel there's no age limit to falling in or out of a bubble. Its the most important lesson of life - some get it earlier, some get it later... what's important is to learn the lesson right !!